Why is trust difficult?
For reading & meditation: Proverbs 28:18-28
“He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is kept safe.” (v.26)
Why is it that some people find it so difficult to trust? Many have said to me: “My problem is I find it so hard to trust.” A person who finds it difficult to trust on a human level often finds it difficult to trust on a spiritual level. Trust is a learned response and we begin learning it the moment we arrive in this world. A newborn child arrives in the world with a good deal of vulnerability and among other things has to learn the art of developing trust. If parents are loving, reliable, predictable and trustworthy the child soon gets the idea: “I can trust these people who are looking after me. They don’t always respond the way I would like them to but generally they are there for me when I need them.” If, however, there is no reliable and consistent input of love and affection into a child’s personality in the early years, if the parents are unconcerned and unpredictable, the child gets the idea: “People are not to be trusted.” And in cases where parents are not just unconcerned, but downright cruel and abusive, the development of a basic trust is hard and difficult; some would say impossible. My experience in counselling shows that people with an inability to trust are usually those who experienced serious deprivation, abuse or cruelty in their early developmental years. This is no reason to despair, however, for in Christ we have a new parent and a new parentage. He enables us to overcome whatever difficulties there may be in our past.
Father, help my focus to be not on what has been, but on what can be, and what will be, when I am rightly related to You. I have grown up physically; now help me grow up spiritually. In Jesus’ Name I ask it. Amen.
For further study:
1. What is removed from those who trust in the Lord?
2. What surrounds those who trust the Lord?