The disease of self-interest…….

November 9
The disease of self-interest
Romans 13:8-14
“… love is the fulfilment of the law.” (v.10)


One thought on “The disease of self-interest…….”

  1. The sentiment of this smacks of selfishness. A lack of maturity. A lack of the understanding of the greater human condition.

    The pressures of life are a crucible that test the quality of our character. Some of us are better at being mature than others. Being mature in the face of true stress or tragedy is something that is not necessarily borne within ourselves and it may take a few trips through this type of pressure cooker to refine our ability to feel for others. We learn how to better react emotionally based on our life’s experiences.

    We are instinctively dedicated to our own self interests. As children we start out purely in a perpetual feedback loop of want and gratification.

    As we age, most are forced to learn to wait for gratification but inside our urge is to satisfy our want immediately.

    As we proceed through our teen years learning and growing both personally and socially our ability to cope within groups of people improves and we start evaluating the world in more than just our own self interests.

    As adults we eventually commit our lives to others in marriage or other scenarios and we then see the virtue of considering others and their plight. All of this stays in perspective for the most part, that is until we are placed under stress and are confronted with others in desperate need.

    You can call the failing to see other’s needs as a ‘disease of self interest’ but in my experience it can be a sign of an inability to manage the stress of the moment.

    When humans are placed in stress in many cases our inexperience at coping causes us to revert to our original programming as children. Our intellectual self is stripped away along with our maturity and we are left incapable of concerning ourselves for others needs. This is the proverbial “I am at a loss for words” scenario.

    I will add that when I was in my 20’s and 30’s and confronted with another person’s profound grief, I was at a loss as to how to react. I probably came off as selfish. I am now in my 60’s and have suffered myself and as a result can see another person’s pain more clearly in terms of life in general and I can be the caring and concerned friend that someone might want and need.

    It is not necessarily a bad person who defaults to self interest. You will find some who are at fault when they display this behavior and some who are overwhelmed and simply do not know what to say. It is not always a bad person who cannot cope with person’s crisis. People can and do get better at being compassionate about others with time.

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